I found myself with an hour or so to kill at a shopping centre whilst waiting for my partner. It had been a while since I've been shopping, a strange realisation for someone who has always indulged in retail therapy and who had endless ways to justify it. "Oh it's been a hard week, treat yourself, you'll feel better" or "You really deserve it for working so hard lately and forgetting to look after yourself" or any excuse really, like "Well you haven't brought anything this week!". I craved the instant gratification that came with impulsive fast fashion purchases, but of course, this was short lived. In fact, if I didn't come home with as many shopping bags as I had anticipated, I was actually left feeling disappointed.
I knew what I needed: a washed out casual top, a summer dress and a staple pair of shorts. I've always found it hard and almost impossible when shopping for something specific and today was no different.
I walked into Sportsgirl, an old time favourite. Within minutes, my arms were loaded with clothes, about 10 individual items, most of which weren't on my shopping list. I thought to myself "What's the harm in trying it on?!" as I made my way to the change rooms. I must give myself some credit though, I am normally pretty good during this process; putting aside ill fitting clothes, colour tones which make me look sick, fabrics that feel irritable or styles which quite frankly, made me look stupid. My 10 items quickly dwindled down to just one - the piece I had gotten the most excited about and this emotion is my downfall. It was an acid washed t-shirt dress with a skull and rose motive, it screamed my name, even though with boobs and booty, I've never been able to pull off a t-shirt dress... I was emotionally involved and I was determined!
It didn't fit well, "But let's try a different size" I told myself, not wanting to admit defeat. So off I went to collect the smaller size and the fit was worse then the first. Still determined to make this dress work for me, I held onto it tightly as I made another loop of the store. I then noticed one of the sales girls wearing a smilier dress that she had paired with a belt. Problem solved. I picked up 3 different types of belts and headed back to the change rooms. Mind you, I think it's been 10 years since I've even worn a belt as they do not suit me, nor have I had a need for one. Did I mention that I was determined? I put the dress back on and tried it with different belts, again and again and again, to no avail. A few months ago I would have said "Fuck it" and taken it to the register, but I begrudgingly set it aside and with utter disappointment, left the store empty handed.
That's when I realised, I am a consumer whore. Willing to part ways with $60 because I had lusted over a dress that did not suit my body type and willing to part ways with an additional $20 for a belt that I would probably never wear as a means to justify the whole purchase because I had seen someone else pull it off. It's clear now that it's not going to be as simple as a wardrobe purge to cultivate my personal style, but this is a complete lifestyle {and attitude} change. I've now armed myself with this beautiful book called The Curated Closet and it's time to break these consumer habits!
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